सबसे पहले तो रितू जी और पिंकी जी का धन्यवाद जिन्होंने बहुत ही अच्छी तरह से समझाया की किस तरह से भावनात्मक बुद्धिमत्ता का उपयोग आपके दैनिक जीवन में कई अलग-अलग तरीकों से किया जा सकता है। जैसे कि आलोचना और जिम्मेदारी स्वीकार करने में सक्षम होना,गलती करने के बाद आगे बढ़ने में सक्षम होना,जरूरत पड़ने पर ना कहने में सक्षम होना,अपनी भावनाओं को दूसरों के साथ साझा करने में सक्षम होना,समस्याओं को ऐसे तरीकों से हल करने में सक्षम होना जो सभी के लिए कारगर हो,अन्य लोगों के लिए सहानुभूति रखना,किसको को शांति से सुनने का कौशल होना,यह जानना कि आप वह काम क्यों करते हैं जो आप करते हैं,दूसरों के बारे में जजमेंटल नहीं होना | भावनात्मक बुद्धिमत्ता के पाँच कौशल किसी के भी द्वारा, किसी भी समय सीखे जा सकते हैं। लेकिन भावनात्मक बुद्धिमत्ता के बारे में सीखने और उस ज्ञान को अपने जीवन में लागू करने में अंतर है। लेकिन इस session के बाद बहुत हद तक इसे अपनाया जा सकता है |
Glimpse of EI LC from my diary.
Beauty of keeping others emotions in center and not just yours. Following these 5 emotional competencies of self regulation is kind of helpful:
Self control, trustworthiness, conscientiousness, adaptability, innovation.
“Worry is a bully. It depends on how much we feed. The more we feed the bigger it gets…”
How to deal with anger in one of the Sadguru’s video.
Meng’s Magic Mushroom Mantra: [to be repeated silently for yourself when encountering a difficult person]
> Forgive them
>Grow with them
And lastly if you are angry count till 10 and if you are really really angry count till 100.
Count your blessings with gratitude!!✨️
During these 8 days, of the workshop I have learnt how being emotionally intelligent is going to help in my professional and personal life, sometimes things don’t happen as we have planned and how remaining calm during difficult situations will help to overcome to keep our emotions in control and allow us to be rational.
The ability to understand feelings from moment to moment is crucial to psychological insight and self understanding.
Over the course of time I understood that when emotions run high, they change the way our brains function…diminishing our cognitive abilities, decision-making powers, and even interpersonal skills. Understanding and managing our emotions (and the emotions of others) helps us to be more successful in both our personal and professional lives.
At a personal level, emotional intelligence helps us:
- Have uncomfortable conversations without hurting feelings.
- Manage our emotions when stressed or feeling overwhelmed
- Improve relationships with the people we care about
At work, emotional intelligence can help us:
- Resolve conflicts
- Coach and motivate others
- Create a culture of collaboration
- Build psychological safety within teams
I actually wondered how is it possible?
Well these sessions have helped me understanding that how being an emotionally intelligent person makes you stand out of the crowd. On the top of it, I learned that mindfulness is a key tool in understanding ourselves, our own thoughts and feelings and what is important to us. Mindful conversation and techniques of dealing with triggers have actually helped me in handling unpleasant situations in life. The knowledge of Self motivation and it’s elements have made me stay more focused on the purpose of my life and my vision crystal clear.
Shivali Ladhani’s reflection
Emotional intelligence involves the ability to recognise and regulate one’s emotions. This means being able to manage one’s emotions effectively, rather than being controlled by them. This ability will help be more optimistic and manifest for a better future.
Visit to the orphanage was indeed a very memorable experience. I was amazed to see the kids so positive there inspite of being in the orphanage. This helped me realise how lucky I’m and should stop cribbing about little things. What struck me most was while leaving, a kid first whispered, “mat jao” and then in person twice or thrice he came told, “mat jao” I wish I could stay there a little more and make them enjoy.
A big THANK YOU to Nandini ma’am and Evelyn ma’am for giving this opportunity and helping us be emotionally intelligent.
It will take persistence and commitment to master the skill
Emotional intelligence (EI) refers to the ability to recognize, understand, and manage our own emotions, as well as the emotions of others. It involves being self-aware and attuned to our own emotions, as well as the emotions of those around us, and using this information to guide our thoughts, feelings, and behavior.
EI encompasses a range of skills, including emotional awareness, empathy, self-regulation, motivation, and social skills. It is a valuable tool that can help us build stronger relationships, communicate more effectively, and lead happier, more fulfilling lives. EI can also play a significant role in our success in the workplace, as individuals with high levels of EI are often more successful in their careers and better equipped to handle stress and challenges.
It was very fruitful learning in Emotional intelligence sessions. We made connections with real life and analysed the event we experienced. Compassionate is the most effective leadership. Three components 1 Cognitive – I understand you, 2 Affective – I feel for you, 3 Motivational – I want to help you. We should practice to develops – Seein goodness, giving goodness, multiple goodness and strengthens the self confidence. We learned about how best team can be build and healthy relationships can be created. By listening others and allow people to speak freely is the main element. We leaned how to manage Stress whether it’s good or bad. Empathetic listening is required. Think from both parties perspective and be neutral. Know your own emotions is important, we have to be mindful with emailing. Psychological safety at work place was the great thing to understand. Emotional wellness is very important in which they suggest we should approach pleasant & unpleasant emotions instead of positive and negative.
Regarding the title: 3A, by concluding I must say one should be aware about the emotions he/she feeling, accept it and take appropriate actions for the betterment.
The positive attitude that helped me secure my mind might not sustain, there’s an emotional element that needs to consider.
I call emotional intelligence the most difficult lesson to learn. It includes emotional perception, the ability to reason using emotions, the ability to understand emotions, and the ability to manage emotions.
The nonverbal signals of our body language and facial expressions are the first step. Our emotions help us prioritize what we pay attention to and react to; we respond emotionally to things that garner our attention. It can be a bit tricky as our emotions may perceive a wide variety of meanings.
The ability to manage emotions effectively is a crucial part. We need to regulate our emotions and respond to them appropriately not just to others but to ourselves too!
We started with DIFFICULT CONVERSATION and ended with CONTENTMENT. Yes, that’s how our EI journey was. Everyone faces difficult conversations, but how to deal with it was beautifully explained by our facilitators; Nandini ma’am and Evelyn ma’am.
I really liked the 3 steps: Content conversation, Emotional conversation and identity conversation. It was worth pondering on identity conversation, cause, what I realised is, that’s where everything starts and that’s where we can balance ourselves.
Now, I would like to stress on STRESS buffer. Who doesn’t stress out? We all are humans and we do face stress. An astonishing approach towards stress; just improve your relationship with it.
I am definitely more Emotionally Intelligent now. Thanks to the entire group for sharing and being an empathetic listener.