Month: October 2018

From very first day, focus of facilitators at Integrity has been on fighting away our fear. To facilitate the same, through various sessions of the class we are being made powerful by subjecting us to various experiences and situations that allow us to gain power to fight our fear of different levels.

Showcasing the movie, ‘Queen’ for the participants of the class falls in one of this way to make us understand about the necessity to fight fear, and understand that when fear is once overcome it makes an individual feel so comfortable, powerful, strong and confident. The lead role in story was initially going through a suppressed feeling of rejection and felt dejected. The fear of rejection and dejection did not allow her immediately to deal with her current state of being back again single.

But, after listening to her grandmother, when she decides to move out of her home and travel as per her plan for honeymoon, she is able to re-discover herself with the exposure, the people she comes across  and experiences she gains during her travel. This allows her to be powerful to fight our her fear of dejection and once fought she is overwhelmed with the comfort and strength she gained. This power and confidence allowed her to make her choices rightly when the man, whom she once loved a lot tries to return back and force himself upon her.

So, the inference is, you fight out your fears and the most powerful, confident and happy person you can be……

I have a vivid memory of watching Queen movie again at FS. I had already seen this movie before but I am thankful that I saw this movie again because I was more cheerful and relaxed…and lighter I think…

Before the movie, we all were asked to write about our fears and probable reason why we have that fear, from when and related details…I too wrote about this one fear that I have…correction…had; of not trusting men in my personal life beyond a point; of course barring the family. This was the only fear that was hidden deep inside my soul and because there was never any need to address it, I never worked on it intentionally…but the life classes don’t spare you and thus, here I was again facing this fear and compelled to think that why all these years I didn’t really address this fear…what stopped me… By the end of the movie, I found the answer…

I love the end scene of the movie when the female actor returns her ring to her ex-fiancee and with a great relief leaves his home. I also love this scene when in the middle of the conversation the female actor gets up and say that she needs to meet her friends as she had promised to be with them instead of continuing the conversation with her ex-fiance in the cafe. The director has beautifully shown a journey of how a small town girl whose world revolves around her fiancee only when faces the betrayal and adversity, she gradually gets up, gathers her strength and not just goes for her honeymoon alone…but faces her demons, complexes, fears, identifies her strengths, make friends, take decision independently, laughs, lives and love herself more than anyone. This is me…absolutely…completely…totally…Eureka… The first thing that I did after reaching home is that I messaged one only male friend that I wish to meet him and need to talk… We met, I spoke and confessed whenever I made excuses to not to meet him alone without my husband accompanying me or his wife or not talking for long over the phone or not sharing my concerns…my life…he patiently heard me and said…I knew all this but I was trying so that you can accept me too just like you have accepted my wife…

The story doesn’t end here…I have now one more very close male friend…and all this because I left the baggage behind just like the female actor did…I am all set to restart the journey…

The movie was excellent. What I learned and understood after watching movie is fear is nothing but the reality which we are not able to accept. I am able connect last two session with the movie.You won’t realise what you are good at if you don’t explore new things. It is important for you to get out of your comfort zone and travel the world. Meeting different people and understanding their philosophy of life will help you to be more open in general. Your self respect is utmost importance. Find someone who respects you for who you are, not for what they can make you. Explore your passion for work, travel, love anything and everything. Don’t let your love life affect your other life choices. It is okay if things don’t work out in the first go. Life will give you other chances and they will only get better with time. Remember that every thing works out for the best. Life is a great teacher; it will teach you exactly what you are supposed to learn at a particular period of time. And if being with someone makes you sad, move on. There’s so many other things waiting for you.

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