How to achieve the best person in you, via awareness of cognitive biases

The Critical Thinking session on days 3 and 4
After a long and interesting discussion about different Biases, I conclude with an understanding, that humans can’t live without Biases. Biases will always appear in every action in the face of memory, Social, Learning, Belief, Mony, and politics. but when you ask yourself that
Why I have taken this action?
Why I am thinking like this? or
Why the other one is thinking like this?
What is my perspective or the other one’s perspective?
It helps to find the answer to what is right and what is wrong. and
We didn’t caught in our assumptions, conclusions, and beliefs without having proper knowledge which may lead us to wrong decisions.
As we see in Mahabharat and Ramayan the great role models with great tolerance and a great influencer.
The one who live with rules and values The one who set new rules and values
Beautiful examples of critical thinkers and in Hinduism,
It is called योगस्थ बुद्धि who is a very balanced thinker and who can take decisions with the end in their mind and didn’t judge anyone with Biases.
50 Cognitive Biases in the Modern World

Emotional Intellegence

सबसे पहले तो रितू जी और पिंकी जी का धन्यवाद जिन्होंने Emotional Intelligence क्या है और आज हम जो VUCA world में जी रहे है इसमें यह कितना ज़रूरी है | मैंने यह भी सीखा कि किस तरह से mindfulness practice को develop करना है और हमें हर परिस्थिति में शांत और धैर्य रखना है | मैंने यह भी सीखा कि pleasure, passion और purpose किस तरफ से एक दूसरे से inter -related है | मैंने यह भी सीखा कि आत्म-जागरूकता भावनात्मक बुद्धिमत्ता का प्रमुख क्षेत्र है जो अन्य सभी को सक्षम बनाता है | मैंने resilience क्या है सीखा और समझा कि दुर्भाग्य या परिवर्तन के लिए आसानी से समायोजन से उबरने की क्षमता ही resilience है |

Emotional Intelligence

I had just heard the terminology of emotional intelligence before the start of this life class, but now I realize after attending four sessions how important it is in my professional as well as personal life, and how this skill is very much required in today’s VUCA world. What are the three types of happiness and how pleasure, passion and purpose are very much interdependent and how these forms are of happiness are related to motivation and what are the three steps process of motivation, how I have to align my work with the values I possess, what are the values the famous personalities used to possess, and how resilience is going to help to overcome from the failure.

CT Day 3-4 Baises and Ethical Delamas

My learning from CT Day 3 and 4:

  1. I got to about the different types of biases. In real life, we use all the bais. Knowing about bais will help in to think from different perspectives, everyone is right in their way. Keeping aside the affinity bias will help me to take a fair decision.
          2. Ethical dilemmas- Knowing about my own moral values and understanding that every individual has their own moral value that varies from culture to culture.
          3. Research work – While the research task, I learned that asking questions to myself helped me to know the truth about the topic/issue.
Overall: Respecting an individual’s perspective as everyone belings different culture but when needed we should also be making a decision based on universal truth.


Critical Thinking – Reflection

Got to know types of Biases like Confirmation bias, Dunning-Kruger Effect, Cultural bias, Self-Serving Bias etc. There are various instances when we are unconsciously working through these biases.

Through Murder your darling activity we had to think critically about different points, had to review both sides. By doing this activity I came to know that what we think or believe is not always 100% correct, there is always another side of the coin, which shows a different picture. We should be open to exploring these options too.
For important decisions in our life we should also think out of our bias, review all the sides and then decide.

How critically you can think..!!

Here are a few learning of my critical thinking session 3 and 4.

  • Murder your darling, which help us to critically evaluate the situation and share our point of view on it.
  • Rating the different situation from 1 to 10, that what comes to your priority, that help us to understand what are our “Ethics, responsibility, moral value”. This activity help me understand that each person has his/her own way to think.
  • Different types of bias and identifying which types of bias am I applying in my life consciously or  unconsciously.

Over all it was good, and I am still working on system 2.

“Murder your Darling…”

The title is really strong and contradicting. Same is the expectation for developing critical thinking – murder your biases – the thoughts, views, opinions which were so very comforting and supportive to your system 1.

It’s difficult – extremely difficult – because we have to do it by ourselves. It needs patience, clarity, acceptance, readiness and courage. But that’s the only way to heal, in many different ways and for many reasons. Eg – The topic I chose to – murder my darling was – “Men are not emotional”. Based on what I had seen, heard, and experienced all these years – this was a very easily accepted reality. So, to start off to murder – I looked into the men in my house to see whether they were really emotional? I really struggled hard to recall and see things differently to understand their ways to be emotional as my system 2 had never ever explored or saw through those lenses all this time. And hence there were differences, disagreements and resentments. But with great efforts with my system 2 at least now I can say – “mere ghar ke mardo ko BHI dard hota hae”.:):):):):) I am still work in porgress with my system 2 to observe more and understand their emotional side.

Emotional intelligence

We all have some or other emotions at every moment and so our actions are accordingly. I can control my emotions and think before showing any emotions but was not aware the terms such as Self-awareness and Self -regulations. In this life class I have learnt many new terms and strategies to live a happy life. 


We are living in VUCA world.(volatility, uncertainty, complexity and Ambiguity) where we face unexpected challenges. So we have to prepare for it and for this EI is necessary. Therefore in the coming years, EI is an essential skill that all should have to learn. 

If we are emotionally intelligent we can face challenges, can think critically and so we become more confident.


There are six universal emotions Happy, sad, Disgust,  fear, surprise and angry in which all have same facial expressions. 

We should understand our emotions as well as of others to. 

There are five domains of Emotional intelligence which are categorized between intrapersonal and interpersonal.,  4. Empathy  5. Social Skills


  1. Self-awareness- We should be self-aware of our emotions so that we should know what we are doing or why we are doing it. To be more Self-aware we should follow Mindfulness (meditaion, walking and listening)
  2. Self-regulation – We should not flow through our emotions. We should be enough mindful and strong enough to regulate our emotions. Mindful listening, Meditation, and mindful walking will help us to regulate our emotions.

  Our worries should be healthy so that we should plan beforehand to tackle them,.

3.Self Motivations- In which we learned about three types of Happiness- 

Pleasure, Passion and purpose.

In Vardan sir’s session, we got more insights about Pleasure, passions and Purpose. It is difficult to differentiate between pleasure and passion. We get pleasure from small things we do or get but for passion, we need to take out the time and put effort into it.

Sometimes our Passion doesn’t incline with our purpose. So it is good if we make small small goals and then achieve our big purpose of life.

We are the only ones who can make us happy.

IKIGAI – Four Quadrants activity helped to identify our passion, liking, love and Purpose of our life. 

As we are working in the organization so it is essential to create a positive environment and be mindful there so all should understand each other, improve their performance, increase their well-being and live a happy life at the workplace as well as personally. 

This way the four days of life class were very fruitful for me.


Reflection of Emotional Intelligence (LC)

It is an opportunity to be a part of life class at Fountainhead school. It was very interesting to learn the science behind our emotional reactions and the term ‘Amygdala Hijack’. Earlier, I had an idea of Emotional Intelligence and its benefits but, after attending the Life Class, I found the big idea and also many more connected benefits. To explain further, Emotional Intelligence is a wide term, it became easier to learn it in small chunks such as self-awareness, self-regulation, and self-motivation. I learned that one needs to find purpose behind each action or activity he/she does in his/her life. Generally, I am not the kind of person who thinks this deeply in any situation. We should be mindful of our actions. The video of Ikigai was inspirational, I found it a very simple method to find one’s life goal. 

Vardan Sir’s session of 3 P’s Pleasure, Passion, and Purpose made one thing clear if our passion connects to some purpose, it becomes meaningful and worth the time spent on it.

Though it is easy to talk about things it is very difficult or needs a lot of effort to apply in real life. I was able to analyze and identify my life goal. The interactive participants and the mindful facilitators made all the sessions more engrossing and engaging. 

Thanks to all.

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