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There is always something new I learn everytime I watch “Queen”. It reminds me to never ever waste a Schengen visa (whenever I get it) for whatever reason. It teaches me to be brave and face whatever challenges life will tend to pose at any time. We are all someway or another someone as vulnerable as the lead character in the movie. The movie shows us that all it takes is really just that one push that is needed to break open from the chains of societal paradigms. Kuch toh log kahenge… Logo ka kam hai kehna..

Movie Queen talk about equality and being positive towards life, For being happy and to live your life fullest. You are the only reason to be happy, your happiness is not depend on anyone else, if you are not happy, you can not make anyone happy. We all have the fear to face the truth the reality and that’s what is there in the movie … face it, accept it and live your life as today is the last day, live it fullest as your happiness is not depends on anyone else but its only YOU who can make yourself happy, find the happiness in yourself.

It is very important to know, understand and most importantly, explore yourself, love your own self to be happy with someone else. Traveling to new places, meeting new people, and collecting different experiences develops your personality, and your outlook towards life. It is important to “meet yourself” before you meet “the one” to whom you would want to submit yourself in love.

your true friends will always be there with you in all your ups and down in your life, so cherish their friendship, love them unconditionally.

Don’t be scared, don’t runaway from the reality the fact accept it and live your life the way you want because you are the one who can make yourself happy, you don’t need anyone else to be happy and always remember that NO ONE CAN HURT YOU WITHOUT YOUR PERMISSION…

face the reality, face your fear, face the fact the present situation, whatever it is however it is accept it ..it may be you dated a wrong person so what ? from that u learn a hard lesson. you chose a wrong major and had to start all over again. You cherished a friend who turned their back on you. it’s life. we LEARN, GET HURT, GET LOVED, WE CRY WE LAUGH and we do it allover again. Each experience we learn something and thats what we make us unique.

Don’t be puppet whose string in someone else’s hand, be independent and for that know yourself, do what you love to do, enjoy your own company, meet your true self and love yourself for all the things you love to do. Make a mark wherever you go, like in the movie after being dumped by the groom, Rani still went on the planned honeymoon alone and thats where she meet her self, where she met new people, make new friends, learn new things and become more confident.

Enjoy your freedom, be free from the sociatial thoughts and taboos, make your own rules to lead your life, Don’t let anyone over power your soul, your thoughts and real you, dont destroy your dreams and yourself for the sake of someone else, instead get up, gather the courage, face the fear and be ready to accept it in your own way.

Live your life in such a way as your never going to get another one, another day another moment. There is no way to hide, ignore or runaway from the present moment or reality, Always remember thats its only you can who can make yourself happy…. 🙂

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The sessions began with understanding the term – “Integrity”. Then the discussion revolved around the fears that we have. In the process of identifying, it was realized that what seems to be a fear on the surface, may not be the real fear. In fact, the root cause of it will lead to the other fear.

The movie revolved around a girl who takes challenges in her life and tries to come out of her comfort zone. This movie shows fears that she has and how she tries to overcome that. In the earlier sessions, we already discussed our fears and problems. We also tried to understand the root cause of it. In the final analysis, it came to “I can’t handle it.”. This movie also helped us relate this statement with our lives as well.

It was relatable as the message from the movie was clear – “You only have to work on your fears. Accept them and try to overcome them by facing it. In the process, you confront your emerged self.”

It has been an enriching experience so far. Thanks to both the facilitators for creating an opportunity to grow.

I look forward to having the same sessions and discussions.

From very first day, focus of facilitators at Integrity has been on fighting away our fear. To facilitate the same, through various sessions of the class we are being made powerful by subjecting us to various experiences and situations that allow us to gain power to fight our fear of different levels.

Showcasing the movie, ‘Queen’ for the participants of the class falls in one of this way to make us understand about the necessity to fight fear, and understand that when fear is once overcome it makes an individual feel so comfortable, powerful, strong and confident. The lead role in story was initially going through a suppressed feeling of rejection and felt dejected. The fear of rejection and dejection did not allow her immediately to deal with her current state of being back again single.

But, after listening to her grandmother, when she decides to move out of her home and travel as per her plan for honeymoon, she is able to re-discover herself with the exposure, the people she comes across  and experiences she gains during her travel. This allows her to be powerful to fight our her fear of dejection and once fought she is overwhelmed with the comfort and strength she gained. This power and confidence allowed her to make her choices rightly when the man, whom she once loved a lot tries to return back and force himself upon her.

So, the inference is, you fight out your fears and the most powerful, confident and happy person you can be……

I have a vivid memory of watching Queen movie again at FS. I had already seen this movie before but I am thankful that I saw this movie again because I was more cheerful and relaxed…and lighter I think…

Before the movie, we all were asked to write about our fears and probable reason why we have that fear, from when and related details…I too wrote about this one fear that I have…correction…had; of not trusting men in my personal life beyond a point; of course barring the family. This was the only fear that was hidden deep inside my soul and because there was never any need to address it, I never worked on it intentionally…but the life classes don’t spare you and thus, here I was again facing this fear and compelled to think that why all these years I didn’t really address this fear…what stopped me… By the end of the movie, I found the answer…

I love the end scene of the movie when the female actor returns her ring to her ex-fiancee and with a great relief leaves his home. I also love this scene when in the middle of the conversation the female actor gets up and say that she needs to meet her friends as she had promised to be with them instead of continuing the conversation with her ex-fiance in the cafe. The director has beautifully shown a journey of how a small town girl whose world revolves around her fiancee only when faces the betrayal and adversity, she gradually gets up, gathers her strength and not just goes for her honeymoon alone…but faces her demons, complexes, fears, identifies her strengths, make friends, take decision independently, laughs, lives and love herself more than anyone. This is me…absolutely…completely…totally…Eureka… The first thing that I did after reaching home is that I messaged one only male friend that I wish to meet him and need to talk… We met, I spoke and confessed whenever I made excuses to not to meet him alone without my husband accompanying me or his wife or not talking for long over the phone or not sharing my concerns…my life…he patiently heard me and said…I knew all this but I was trying so that you can accept me too just like you have accepted my wife…

The story doesn’t end here…I have now one more very close male friend…and all this because I left the baggage behind just like the female actor did…I am all set to restart the journey…

The movie was excellent. What I learned and understood after watching movie is fear is nothing but the reality which we are not able to accept. I am able connect last two session with the movie.You won’t realise what you are good at if you don’t explore new things. It is important for you to get out of your comfort zone and travel the world. Meeting different people and understanding their philosophy of life will help you to be more open in general. Your self respect is utmost importance. Find someone who respects you for who you are, not for what they can make you. Explore your passion for work, travel, love anything and everything. Don’t let your love life affect your other life choices. It is okay if things don’t work out in the first go. Life will give you other chances and they will only get better with time. Remember that every thing works out for the best. Life is a great teacher; it will teach you exactly what you are supposed to learn at a particular period of time. And if being with someone makes you sad, move on. There’s so many other things waiting for you.

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Reflecting on the day actually helps you relive the day. I was happy from within as I served and received smile and gratitude from people.
the internal factors that were affecting was my back pain, I could overcome it easily when I received the lovely smiles and thanks from the heart. I even felt at one moment,which I shared with my facilitator that it would be more joy if we could have cooked the food ourselves.
Thinking about how to create a peaceful ambiance, working together to achieve the same was the unforgettable experience and moments to cherish in future.

Fear is nothing but the reality which is not so real, and this makes fear more fearful. Because on a psychological level we believe it to be the true and the ultimate reality. But that is not true. Ignorance leads to fear. What we have not experienced and what we do not want to experience, both adds to the fear. This further leads to incompetency because we’re stuck in these fears. These are the biggest barriers to ones progression and exploration and can be experienced on different levels. In the workshop we discussed fears of different levels. Wether constructive or destructive they have huge impact in shaping our lives. So it is essential to know our fears and work to overcome it.

It was an amazing experience in the first life class (integrity). I got to know about the different fears and its levels for each individual. The fear someone has may not affect me but it means a lot to the person who has it. I also learned that I have to work on my self to overcome my fears. Also, the sharing done by my classmates were amazing and I could relate to the situations they shared.

I also thank Ms. Bhargavi and Ms. Kavita for giving such a wonderful and friendly environment to learn and grow.