No matter it is parenting or marriage, it has brought about a lot of change in my life. During a conflict with my husband I discuss and try to solve the matter instead of arguing and not talking to each other for days.
As a parent I tried to understand my daughter’s perspective and have change my way of parenting from DO AS I SAY to DO AS I DO. I also have started giving her space and time and give her the opportunity to explain. I tried to convince her with the logical reasons for doing the right things and that helped in improving her attitude towards life and our relationship.
What is integrity???
It is a mixture of 7 habits and love classes…………
What all I have shared during these two classes, we have got a chance to put a deeper thought about the same during this class.
With each session of these class, we got a chance to put ourselves in someone else’s shoe, where we got to understand different experiences, emotions, pains which made our life content full and complete.For example. we have heard about the struggle that everyone faced in their lives where we realized that we are responsible of our lives so we can implement our learning with any situation, we can overcome our fear or trouble in any circumstances.
We were also given a chance to visit to the Civil hospital and Old age home where we have experienced the pain they went through everyday so we thank god for the life we have got.
“Now, we could find a complete transformation in our lives.We thank our facilitators, our colleagues and friends to give us this opportunity.”
Why do we find it so hard to ‘Forgive’?
One reason we resist forgiving is that we don’t really understand what forgiveness is or how it works. We think we do, but we don’t.
Most of us assume that if we forgive our offenders, they are let off the hook and get to go about their merry ways while we unfairly suffer from their actions. We also may think that we have to be friendly with them again, or go back to the old relationship.
The first step to understanding forgiveness is learning what it is and isn’t. The next step is giving yourself permission to forgive and forget, letting go of the bitterness while remembering very clearly your rights to healthy boundaries. And this is what the “Love Class” has taught us!!
I really liked this quote “Forgiveness is the scent the rose leaves on the heel that crushed it.”
Moreover, true forgiveness is a choice. Hurting is not a choice but hating is. We don’t get to choose how people treat us, but we do get to choose how we respond. The first to apologize is the bravest. The first to forgive is the strongest and the first to forgive is the happiest.
However, forgiveness is a continual process. Its not a one time choice; its an ongoing decision. Some people feel guilty when feelings of anger or bitterness toward someone begin to arise after they have already forgiven them. These feelings don’t mean you didn’t forgive them; it means you are simply being tempted with that same temptation again. Don’t feel guilty just resist the temptation by renewing your forgiveness.
Let’s choose forgiveness today. Let’s commit to keeping no record of wrongs.
You will be amazed at the joy and peace that will flood your heart..!! 🙂
I used to believe that yes – God does exist and a ledger is being maintained by him. Idol worship was practiced by me and I wholeheartedly participated in a lot of pujas, havan and many other such practices. I used to observe fasts, pray, visit temples religiously and have done many more things in the name of God. Today I do question the existence of God (I don’t know is someone really there sitting up in the sky; keeping an eye on me and maintaining my ledger). But yes – there is some supreme power which is over and above human power.
People around me are still grappling with their blind beliefs – going to pandits and do not critically evaluate and look for “disconfirming” evidences. I constantly squabble with my family, explaining them the reason behind why have I stopped many practices in the name of God (idol worship, pujas, havan, fasts, etc.), but at the end I can just show them the way and guide them to think critically. I can’t force anyone. I still participate in few gatherings where customs and traditions are blindly followed, just because my parents are happy with my presence, but believing in these customs and traditions is still a question, that needs to be answered!
My belief! – A confused one now but earlier i firmly believed that there are many God/s as seen in different religious stories and tv shows, I always believed that yes they are exactly how they are shown( Different kind of faces / multiple hands / miraculous powers and much more).
The question which still resolves is Who is God?” I mean I always read Ramayana and seen so many tv shows because of which I have various images and types of GOD in mind. But, Now i believe that no one has seen god, all these stories are assumptions that something of this sort must have happened and people are believing it since ages.” I want to search how these stories and other scriptures came from and how true are they?How do these scriptures were written i mean who all told them that this all happened (e.g Ramayan & Mahabharat).
I never doubted on the existence of God! There is some creator and destroyer, there is some supreme being.
Religion what I believe is all man – made, people of same beliefs and location came together to form a group and then they made their own rituals and traditions and then domination started.
I don’t believe much in rituals and traditions, I question myself every time, before doing something the concept of Causation Vs Correlation starts to move around my head. I have seen so many examples where not doing a particular ritual or not following a tradition did not had a bad effect, thus making my belief more strong.
Now after the session my thought process goes like that people still believe in all the rituals and are continuing to follow the rituals / poojas / etc irrespective of the logic or a reason.
A lot of us have the impression that Love is for Lovers. But it is important to realize that the word “Love” is much deeper than we think. In the recent few years I came to know, that love is Friendship. Osho says, “Friendship is the purest form of love. It is the highest form of love where nothing is asked for, no condition where once simply loves giving”
We talked about love between parents, friends, siblings and lovers. We also talked about how the relationships are and how they are supposed to be. The important ideas that I can recollect are Unconditional Love, Forgiveness and Parenting. I can strongly connect to these 3 things that we talked about in the Love class.
Forgiveness is the thing I have been working on since a few years but I believe I need to take it to a deeper level.
It was a good experience attending the Love class. Listening to experiences of different people is a thing that I enjoy and is also very helpful to me.I have thoroughly enjoyed sharing my experiences too!
This year being a facilitator for Love class was an enriching experience and I felt it was more of learning and sharing. This opportunity once again gave me a platform to share my experiences with my colleagues.
To begin with. the first statement of the book ( The road less traveled- Scott Peck) sums up the essence of the Love class. The statement is “Life is Difficult.” Personally, I always had this question “Why me?”
Truly speaking, accepting and understanding the essence of this statement that life is difficult is one of the greatest truth that helped me to accept the challenges I faced and become disciplined. There is no growth without suffering. Here I would like to mention this statement which has impacted me the most -: “When we grow, it is because we are working at it, and we are working at it because we love ourselves. It is through love that we elevate ourselves – Scott Peck.
Secondly, you have to actively work on solving your own problems else they will always remain barrier in your growth. Being disciplined is a key to solving all our problems. Self-love helps in building lasting relationships. Personally, the most important lesson I learned is “The feeling of being valuable” which forms the bedrock of self-discipline. This sense of feeling valuable is an essential component for mental health. Pure love is an extension of self rather than sacrifice for the self, helped me grow as a parent.
To sum up, the lessons learned so far, love is about working to nurture and understand another being. It is just because of the problems, we grow mentally and spiritually.
I wish if God really existed and somehow he completed my task of writing this reflection! I know someone may argue God has many other important things to do… Really?? What important things?
Till now my stand was very clear. I will not interfere with ideas and opinion people have about God, rituals or religion as they really don’t affect me. I had the liberty to follow things I wished to and never forced into anything against my wish. However out of love and respect I do follow some of the rituals or visiting fire temples with family. This is just to spend time with family and I feel there is no harm in doing so.
However now after so much of discussion on this topic in CT class, I have started reconsidering my way of dealing with these situations. I have become more conscious, I am not sure if just going with the flow will cause any harm in long run? I am unsure if it is really required to seek answers to questions like “Is it really essential to know if God exists or not? God created us or we created Him? Is it fear of unknown or just to get peace and happiness? If I don’t follow or worship God will he/she/it harm people around me? Is it really worth experimenting with God and beliefs associated with God?”
It was all smooth till now. I was happy with my beliefs, but thanks to this workshop!
Your life doesn’t just “happen.” Whether you know it or not, it is carefully designed by you. The choices, after all, are yours. You choose happiness. You choose sadness. You choose decisiveness. You choose ambivalence. You choose success. You choose failure. You choose courage. You choose fear.
There is much to be learned and it is all what life classes has brought in me and the aspects of my life. Personally, I can apply many of the material it describes into my life.
Oh know what LIFE CLASSES !! Was the word i uttered when i read the mail. But all throughout the journey of life classes (7 habits), I cherish and have learned all what needs to be important while trodding the untrodden path.
Learning these habits and putting them into action is sometimes still a challenge for me. Imbibing the 7 habits within us will surely coin us to be a Person of substance. However, there is always a hope. I am still learning and will continue to be life-long learner.
At last I want to thank both the facilitators Chesta ma’am and Juhi ma’am for motivating us and guiding us to make a choice of how we wish to explore our life keeping in mind these habits.
This class has delved deep into, with profound insights, on what really causes unhappiness in our life. It asserts that it is precisely in avoiding our problems and hurdles that we suffer in our life; it is the pain and suffering caused by difficulties in life that we have to meet in order to grow mentally and spiritually. We cannot solve life’s problems except by solving them. We so often view love as a noun instead of a verb… as something that just happens to us or doesn’t happen to us, instead of an ongoing task we must work at…that work, that action-is love.
Though there were some concepts which I did not agree with, and some discussions during the classes were disturbing for me and contrary to my beliefs, I would still like to thank and appreciate our mentors Nayna ma’am and Anita ma’am for this journey of love that we all were a part of.