Category: Love Class

Love is such a wonderful feeling.Every one goes with this feeling in their lives.It is not a feeling for our partner but it can be the feeling for close ones like mother,father,sister,brother,..

A very big thanks to Jay sir and Nikita ma’am. It is a great journey with all the members. In Love class i have learnt so much things, experienced many things.I think i am getting more mature than earlier. I enjoyed a lot. I speaks very less but now i am more expressive. I am sharing my thought to my love ones and relatives. All sessions of love class were very interesting and joyful for me. I enjoyed it. My best trying is to continue living my further life with this understanding and knowledge of love. And i definitely share my love class knowledge to my close ones outside the FS too.

Before I write down my thoughts about what I learnt about Love, I would like to thank my facilitator Jay sir and Nikita ma’am for blending all the topics and putting forward in such a nice manner where we learnt so much by listening to their thought and examples and also of our batch mates. And understood each other’s perspective about Love.

So what is LOVE ? when we think about this we come up with many different words like Understanding, care, forever vala pyar, intimacy and what not. But the real love is not just to feel its about action , its about expression. Just by being with someone we cannot expect the other person to know that we love them the important thing to do is to express. That will help to enhance and grow the relationship.

The other life changing topic which we covered is forgiveness. Why it is important to forgive someone or our own self is for our mental peace and it is never to wrong to forgive or apologize someone.

Talking about marriage, as I’m newly married , I could take so much from these classes and apply in my personal life which has actually helped me to make my new life work on a smooth pace.

Lastly comes parenting. Parenting is a fun but not so easy task. Its not an easy task to raise a Child its take a lot of time to inculcate the good habits and ethics in them and there is no surety if the child will actually learn and apply it but still the parents keep on trying and so its a Life Long Process. I also realized that parenting is the most important part of life. And for the success of it “ROLE MODELING” is something which is very Important and every parent should role model about anything and everything which they expect their child to do.

Thank you for this wonderful journey which taught us:

HOW LOVE IS LIFE AND LIFE IS LOVE.

It was a wonderful experience to be a part of Love classes. What I have learned is love is everything but “fictional” things shown in movies and series. Love is not only about your significant ones, but it is also about yourself as well.

As rightly said by Scott Peck, “Love is the free exercise of choice. Two people love each other only when they are quite capable of living without each other but choose to live with each other.” Until you love yourself first and make yourself independent emotionally, spiritually and financially, you cannot give love to someone else. Love is when you grow spiritually with each other. When you uplift each other to make a better person. Love is all about forgiveness. Forgiving people for their mistakes and satiating yourself is the self love.

It is said that marriages are made in heaven. However, it’s untrue as you have to go through hell and come back to make a successful marriage. Marriage is not only about loving each other, but it is also about knowing the flaws of your partner and still choosing not to give up on them. Marriage will have different phases where you will fall in love with your partner and feel all gooey, but it will also have phases when you will come across the annoying and clingy things of your partner. It is going to be one hell of a ride, but yes if you stand beside your partner always, you will enjoy the ride.

Parenting was also one of the aspects we focused on. Parenting is not about teaching your child to do what you feel but making them understand to do the right things. Parenting is a life long process and you’re a life long learner. Parenting comes from within the moment you hold your newborn in hands and it keeps on going on till the time when your child learns to hold your hand when he comes of age.

Overall, love classes was a serene experience and thanks a ton to Jay Sir and Nikita ma’am for facilitating us so well and made us understand what is love!

Keep loving! Keep growing! 🙂

Before the reflection of Love classes, I would like to give big token of love and gratitude to my faculties, Jay sir ad Nikita ma’am. We would be bored if you both were not facilitating the same.

After attending life classes, I was excited and awaiting the next step towards Love classes. Though the idea of learning about the love was a bit different than what we attended because Love class was not limited to love rather an overall impression and growth about people, thoughts, feelings connected to Love. I was really impressed about few learning outcomes which unconsciously and consciously applied in my daily routine. One of them is the stages of falling in love where whenever I am in a situation in my routines I get a click about the stage I am in and I immediately remind myself to attend other important stages too like Honeymoon stage 😛  Because somewhere balance of all is required as None of the stage can be omitted from daily routine. Another major part of learning was listening and understanding the perspective. Though have gone through in life class but when discussed in groups explicitly in groups in love class and that too when we apply it with loved ones, God it does helps us out. It saves us from miscommunication to sustaining relationship.

 

Another most amazing part was forgiveness which is very hard but at the same time outcome gives you peace of mind. The way it was conducted in love class was amazing and very useful as these days(while practicing in routine for small things) forgiving is very easier, quicker, and very effective. Especially in my case, I was not able to forgive myself only,otherwise I never had issues with others which may lead to forgiving stage, but for me, I was not forgiving, Rather I realized I was fool who was in guilt and regret unnecessarily once I started forgiving my own self.

 

Overall, love class taught me great lessons for life, very knowledgeable and logical things to deal with, to maintain the love respect and feelings for the loved once.

 

It is great to have life classes in school. It was fun as well as new learnings in the Love Class.

When I first said that LOVE is feeling and later it was discussed as it is not. I kept on thinking for long and realized it was a matter of language for me as I was thinking in Hindi where I mean ‘Ehsaas’ by the word feeling where it was used as ‘Emotions’ by others. This was probably my first learning in LOVE Class that words matters to express your thoughts.

Also, love is action…… one’s actions themselves express the love.

Love is to understand, trust, respect, care and take responsibility.

 

In other sections, we discussed marriage, parenthood. Most of the things were known or experienced but I could reflect on my past experience and could relearn these aspects.

 

Yes, I agree that love is to grow together, extending oneself for own growth, partner’s growth and children’s growth.

 

Last but not the least, a hearty thanks to the facilitators, Priti ma’am, Roshan ma’am and Manisha ma’am, who invested their time and energy to plan for such sessions and listened patiently to all our concerns. I enjoyed the discussions a lot!

Before venting out my thoughts over what all I’ve learned from the love class, I would like to give a big token of love and gratitude to my facilitators, Brinda Ma’am an Krishna Ma’am. These classes would have been very tedious without the two of them. A big THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart.

 

I was really bewildered when this love class was about to start as I thought it would be mundane and pointless (as heard about it from everyone). It literally felt like another bomb attack on my head and I started to worry before they started. The initial sessions felt a bit humdrum but eventually I started relishing it as I got to know about different situations people go through and what complications they have to face. To be honest, I felt at peace for once because I feel blessed to have a trouble free life at this stage. We discussed about love, marriage and parenting – I know all three of them sound very heavy and futile at a point but the love class cleared my misconception about it and I actually got rid of the paradigm I used to carry over my head all the time.

When we hear the word ‘love’, all that comes to our mind is a relationship, a couple, feelings and emotions, understanding, sex and what not. But is love only between two adults? That’s one common question that pops up in our head usually. I was sailing in the same boat but I got to know different and amazing perspectives about it and it worked like an eye-opener for me. Love matters to a lot extent but not only with someone we are attracted towards, but it also matters when we talk about our family, our children, friends, siblings, etc. To me, my family comes first and I would cross any barrier to keep them happy. Love class showed me beautiful ways to cherish and value the love I receive in my day to day life from the people who matter the world to me.

Talking about marriage, I’m so glad I’m over the fear of being alone and surrounded with problems. They do exist and why wouldn’t they? But I’m happy that I atleast know better ways to face them.

Last but not the least, comes parenting. Parenting is a fun but not so easy task. It takes a lifetime to grow our children into good, ethical adults, yet not everyone wins a success. I also realized that parenting is the most important part of life. Kids aren’t bad, the parenting is weak when we see some children misbehaving.

Overall, love class taught me great lessons for life, very knowledgeable and logical things to deal with.

According to me its more about your self and for partner, how conditioing for the love.Its not that if you ar not showing love through words than it dosnt mean you are not respecting others love but its about inside how you feeling about your loveones. Feelings and emotions are real. If you truly love a person, you will love them forever, even though they can’t see you that way. That’s why love is always unconditional.If you just hope for being loved back, that’s not love to begin with, it is just some business deal. You love because your feelings for her is real, deep and true. It is not because we haven’t found a better one. It is not because we aren’t able to find someone better than her. It is not because rejection has hurt us and hit us hard. It is not because we are obsessed. It is not because our ego got hurt real bad. It is just because we truly love that person.Love is all about how good friends you are, how much you understand each other, how much you care for each other and how willing you are to know each other. It is about how dedicated and passionate you are towards your relationship, Not only this, love is about how supportive of each other you are and how much you are able to accept each other’s flaws and constantly work to remove them. It’s all about you allow to grow into the best version of themselves.

The session on family and parenting was quite insightful. Though I’m not a parent still I could connect as a teacher because we are role model for our children. They learn and observe even out minute gestures. Our values and attitudes impact their lives to a great extend. To be thoughtful of our actions and words is utmost important. We are their world at initial stages. Teachers are not only to look and evaluate the academic aspect, rather the holistic development of the child by cooperating and aligning with the parents. To give direction and mould one’s life is not an easy job, nor it is everybody’s cup of tea. It requires certain maturity and mindfulness to direct a child in a rightful direction. Our vision for our children should be clear and not so demanding. They are individuals and their purpose to be introduced with this life is not so limited to our vision. Rather we should facilitate them to have their own vision and clarity of life. Develop skills through which they can give meaning to their lives. To uncover or formulate an individual’s  purpose in life is certainly not possible, rather unfair. Discussing about family made me realise what do we actually think as a family is quite subjective. The pace has changed, the requirements have changed, our priorities and circumstances have changed. What we might think as a family is no more a family. And what we can’t expect from strange people from different backgrounds are serving as a family. So it depends from individual to individual what they considers as a family. For me family is, to whom you associate your entire life and which is inseparable. The love class was definitely beneficial for the overall well being because getting exposure to such great thoughts and philosophies and real examples of life is a beautiful experience and learning for a life long journey.

We all become weak in the knees when it comes to the word “LOVE”. A four letter word sure to creep out even the strongest. The commitments, the hard work and the time just to understand love is tremendous…

In a span of just a year, Love has become a less frightening thing for me. Marriage to be precise was like a monster under my bed which I prayed never to face. Understanding the fundaments of what a true love, marriage and parenting are about, one becomes more and more comfortable with the concepts of these three.

The sharing of these classes I shall cherish for years to come. I extend my gratitude to Brinda ma’am and Krishna ma’am for helping me come over my fears and paradigm.

Here’s to a new beginning… <3

Regards,

Fatema Topiwala