Category: Love Class

“Love is not a feeling, Love is an action. Love is the will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth… Love is as love does. Love is an act of will — namely, both an intention and an action.”

― M. Scott Peck, The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth

I would like to share one of my startled moments during the love class. The moment where I came across the above lines which gave me goosebumps in my mind. Never thought love could actually mean something so beyond than being selfless and sacrificing in nature, on the contrary, according to Peck, love is what ensures spiritual growth of our own self and our partner, antithetical to what is mentioned in literature and movies which I knew is sugary but couldn’t fathom what else could it be and then finally the above statement made all the sense to me in this world!

The word cathexis was originated by Sigmund Freud. It’s defined as the investment of emotional energy into an object or a person, often to an extent that’s unhealthy. Think of it like a romantic obsession or overdose of sexual desire. Peck says cathexis happens when we intently focus on the “falling in love” aspect of a relationship that often happens early on. As a consequence, our love might burn with a bright flame, but soon fizzle into sparks before extinguishing altogether. To prevent this, he suggests we think of love as an action, not a feeling. If our love is genuine, it won’t require lots of feelings at all, since it’s much bigger than cathexis. I couldn’t agree more with him on this.

Thank You Vardan Sir and Ankita Ma’am for introducing us to love classes and this book. And perhaps, writing this post makes me realize yet another cherish-able year came to an end with so many beautiful learnings! I would like to express my gratitude to my love class team for sharing the same joy, for being so open-minded and not judging anyone for that matter, for carrying all the trust and love and for being so supportive. It was a pleasure to be a part of this batch. I cannot thank enough to my facilitators – Bhumika Ma’am and Ritu Ma’am for bringing in life to our classes, to share the bond no less, for being the lighthouse of our effervescent journey and for the scrumptious chocolate cake! 🙂

Through our discussions I understood how loving, forgiving and understanding ourselves and others whom we ‘LOVE’ is important to develop loving relationships that enrich our lives. This helps us bond deeper and nourish our loved ones.

A wonderful journey coming to an end. I have learnt and grown.The pain and suffering was understood. Despite the misunderstood concepts clarity gained about relationships. Sharing made our bonds strong.Hope to make more connection in Integrity.

It’s been a great journey during the love class. I have applied a few things that I’ve learned during these sessions, selfless love, and being more practical rather than being into fairytale love stories. But, the most important thing that I am taking away from this love class is the art of forgiveness. forgiving your self and others for your own piece of mind. I want to share this incident how I applied this art of forgiveness, I had a fight with one of my best friend. There was some misunderstanding between us. I approach her one day because she stopped taking with me, I was trying to clear things but, without any reason, she scolds me in front of everyone, I mean publicly she was yelling on me, the way I have approached her I was not expecting that reaction from her. After that, I did not say anything cause I realise that she is angry. And when she is angry she will not think of anything. Yes, I do have my self-respect so I walked off. then almost after a month I called her and said, why don’t we start from the beginning, I am sorry for what I did. Then she was like you don’t have to say that. It was me who did wrong. we both have forgiven each other, and after that our bond became stronger like never before.

No one can deny the fact that ,the four letter word LOVE has a great impact on everyone’s life.

Love has different definition for each individual on the earth, yet most difficult word to define or practice. Love according to me is something that comes without conditions.

During my journey of Love classes I came across many more definitions of Love.I became aware of different elements of Love like  Responsibility, Respect ,Knowledge and Care. I got the knowledge of principles of marriage like Friendship,equality ,commitment. Eight stages of Love, Parenting, Forgiveness and many more priceless things.

What my take aways from these session  are Love is an action , an effort which I needs to make consistently. I have also started implementing the concept of Forgiveness as it helps us to be at peace.Also I started Loving myself because Without Self love one cannot Love others.

Words cannot justify how deeply Love classes have affected my personal and professional life. The sharing Of Love classes I shall cherish forever. I extend my gratitude to Jay sir and Nikita Ma‘am for being good friends first and than great facilitators.Loved to be a part of your Classes.

Lastly, The words which motivated me the most are “Darkness cannot drive out darkness only light can do it, Hate cannot drive out that only Love can do it.”

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Love class is just not about romantic love or parental love, it is about self love!

Love is not being dependent on each other but gives you feeling of independence. It is when two people are capable of living without each other choose to live together. It is acceptance of each other without expecting to change.

Through this classes I learned many things like life is not easy not even the parenting, the importance of forgiveness to make your own self happy, the difference between legitimate and illegitimate pain and last but not the least importance of expressing your love which has really touched my heart.

To summarize, love is the will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own spiritual growth. Thank you Jay sir and Nikita ma’am for being such a great facilitators and get us into the essence of what love really is.

”Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it.”

                                                                  – M. Scott Peck, The Road Less Travelled

I would like to begin this post with this quote that we came across on the very first day of our Love Class. I cannot believe how fast this another year went by! I have always waited eagerly for these Life Class days since the time I joined Fountainhead.

This year, Love classes helped me break many of the myths I had on life, love, people, and relationships. It taught me how important it is to let go of our ego and how rewarding the act of forgiveness is. Honestly speaking, I am still yet to apply many things that I have learnt in these classes in my personal life. But after assimilating the fundaments of love, relationships/marriage, and parenting, I cannot wait to implement them in my life in the future.

And of course, I would like to thank our facilitators, Jay Sir and Nikita Ma’am, from the bottom of my heart for taking out their precious time, sharing their insights and supporting us throughout this journey.

To begin with I would like to thank the facilitators for creating such an environment where we were been able to share about our experiences, i would also like to thank each an every member of this group for sharing their experiences and their perspectives about what is ‘LOVE’.  Love classes have totally changed my perspective and the misconceptions what i had about Love. I have learned many things from this class about Love,forgiveness and parenting,