Category: Love Class

Today is the last session of the Love class 2017-18. And while the participants are writing their reflections, I thought why not to pen down some of my thoughts too! This was a first stint as a ‘Facilitator’ for me and I must say it was worth taking up. Yes, it calls for extra efforts and time but  I’m thankful to my entire group and buddy -Priyanka Chhabra for helping me sail through this responsibility. I must say many of the participants of our group brought life to the sessions by sharing their stories and almost all were open to listen and may be question their paradigms too. All these years with Life class, sharing my thoughts & ideas and listening to others has really helped me to reflect on myself as a person, my paradigms, my relations, the way I handle situations, the way I raise my kids and what not. As they say, awareness is the first step towards bringing a change, it is really important to be aware of your actions and thoughts which define us and our relationships. Having said that, I also admit that it is not always easy to respond in the most appropriate manner or not to operate from our paradigms. It is a conscious effort that we need to make and it is very much possible that we’ll falter. Honestly speaking, it is work in progress for me and I’m sure for most of us. But I personally feel these life classes are an important component of our personal development at FS and also help us to perform better at our work. I look forward to explore and discover more of myself further in the upcoming life class.

 

Life

After finishing life class my conclusion is, Life is like you are allowed to scream, you are allowed to cry, you are allowed to be happy and make everyone happy but do not give up in any damn condition. Life is sometimes you learn and sometimes you win.

Love

Life without love, you can’t even imagine. I have learned from love class that we should not change for people to like us, be yourself and the real people will love the real love you. The love classes helped me to identify that immediate solution of a problem with my partner. After joining love class I got to know the real relationship between us. Sometimes doing things for others may be categorized as love but it is just a feeling of acknowledgement that we seek.

Marriage

The definition of love given by M. Scott Peck, “The will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth”, sounds practical as it focuses on the selfish nature of the love as nurturing spiritual growth of one own’s  as well as selfless nature wherein we are working for spiritual growth of others. Love is not about how many days, weeks or month you have been together, its all about how much you love each other everyday. If you understand your partner the you have feeling of independence. It is a combination of compromise, adjustment, responsibility, respect, honesty, love.

Parenting

There is no such thing as a perfect parent, so just be a real one. I can say that raising children is one of the toughest and most fulfilling jobs in the world. I have learned so many things about parenting like myths, facts, responsibility.

I just loved this love class and of course my both facilitator… Brinda ma’am and Krishna Shethji ma’am thank you so much to taught us.

 

Priti Patel (Arts)

As we come to the end of the Love class for 2017-18, it gives me immense joy to share the learning I’ve imbibed over time through this platform.

The name “LOVE CLASS” is much more than a “class” to me. It is an amalgamation of a lot of valuable learning which I shall reflect on over my lifetime. Most of us are fortunate to have had this opportunity at a very appropriate stage of our life.

In the later half of these classes, we’ve gained an insight into important phases/skills of life such as:

• MARRIAGE- The 7 promises of marriage became much more engaging with sharing of personal examples by each of us
• The art of forgiveness-The video showcasing the life of the holocaust twin experiment survivor, Ms. Eva Mozes Kor, swept the ground off our feet; She is an epitome of “forgiveness and magnanimity of heart”
• We learnt that,“The greatest power we have as humans is the power to forgive others!”
• The tools such as writing a forgiveness letter to a person whom we want to forgive, and bear no personal grudges for, proved effective for most of us
• Parenting and its challenges- The discussion about our paradigms about parenting, and the significance of updating it in the context of the current generation, was truly worthwhile
• The real life experiences shared by each of the members and the facilitators, was at the core of the whole workshop!

This is just an attempt to summarize the learning in a nutshell, though, it takes a lifetime to practically understand and exercise such skills.

Nevertheless,”Thank you FS!” for providing us with such opportunities where we are equipped to take the first step in this direction!

Special thanks to our coordinators, Nandini ma’am and Priyanka ma’am for their valuable time and efforts! 🙂

 

 

 

 

My perception about life is all about struggles then my perception is changed once we truly understand and accept it — then life is no longer difficult.Life is easy.Why to think that life is difficult and live a life accordingly when things can be handled easily.

My first perception about love is feeling but then my perception towards love is changed Love is not a feeling, love is in action.The willingness to extend. Love is an act of will – namely, both an intention and an action.Love is not dependency.

Wonderful book- The road less travelled by Scott Peck.Thank you mentors for taking up love classes with so many examples it help us to make personal connections and understand deeply.

When you hear LOVE,the first thing that comes to a person’s mind is..

“Love is a fantasy”

“Love is blind”

“Love is always romantic”

“Love is being together”

“Love is a dream”

But there is a lot more beyond our perception of love, which is what we exactly learnt during our Love class.So let us look at what Love is exactly

“Love is accepting the other person completely”

“Love is letting go”

“Love is helping oneself and another person grow spiritually”

“Love is caring”

“Love is not always romantic and much more.”

Love classes really  helped us redefine Love and know it in depth

 

By,

Janki Kothari

Heta Rana

Ankita Nandwani

 

Hello everyone,

I would like to share my wonderful journey of love class.

Before attending Love class, I thought that love is only for your partner or your spouse but then I realized that it is not only with your partner ,it is for all with whom you are connected to.

My thinking was “Everything starts with I, Me and Myself”. I was desperate to receive love but I was not giving love, and that’s why I was loosing my relations but that was all before the love class, now I have started implementing whatever my facilitators has taught me.

At last, I would like to thank Brinda Ma’am and Krishna Ma’am who have helped me to understand the real meaning of “Love”

I would also like to thank the school and the management for conducting such training where an individual gets a platform to grow professionally as well as personally.

We listened to different songs to understand the various definitions of love,balloon activity was very interesting.

We understood that romantic love is a myth. We performed drama on myths of love.

Love is :

Action

Dependency

Romantic

Self Sacrifice

Feelings

Cathexis

Definition: The will to extend one’s self for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth—Scott Peck

Love is an act of will– intention(desire) + action
Extending = going into newer and stranger areas which is frightful and is against laziness.
The first extension was difficult, caused anxiety but once done, you have evolved in the process.Human mind will not regain its original shape once extended.
To love others means also to love myself.Love is effort full.

It is a choice we make and not by default.

The journey of the love classes by far has been an eye-opener for me since I was unaware of the fact that love too demands discipline. Till now, I believed that when a person is in love, he/she gives all of the world to the beloved. Least did I know that it is accompanied by self-sacrifice in most of the cases.

Falling in love doesn’t happen all at once. It indeed is a process called ‘cathexis’ comprising of attraction, investment and commitment. Being with your beloved despite the flaws in him/her. Choosing to live together because you want to. Not that you need to. Love is acceptance. It is breaking off all boundaries to nurture your as well as your beloved’s spiritual growth. Love is all about being happy and being you. Love involves courage and risk. Risk of losing. Risk of independence. Of commitment. Confrontation. And hence, it requires discipline.

The road is yet to be travelled further…

I would like to share my understanding of Love.

According to the Author, Scott Peck Love is Desire + Action. One needs to love with Courage, Discipline and true love.

In true sense, Love is Responsibility, Risk, Trust, Care, Understanding, Knowledge and Respect. Love does not have ego boundaries, Cathexcis, Romantic, Self-Sacrifice, Dependency, etc.

So ultimately, what I learned is about True Love which requires our dedication and effort. Love classes have been a great platform for me to introspect and understand what is love.

Lastly, I would say “Genuine Love is precious”.

A Big ” Thank you to facilitators”

Thanks and Regards,
Archi Shah

All throughout my life, it never occurred to me that Love can be such a debatable topic. However, after reading few pages from “The Road Less Traveled” by Dr. M Scott Peck’s during the love classes, it seems as if I am a novice at understanding the value of love!

 

I would not say that I strongly agree to Dr. Peck’s believes, yet I did have a few self-realizations during these few sessions.

 

It is very true that in order to strengthen any relationship we have to face some difficulties or go through some pain and make that extra effort to make the other person feel loved. Acceptance, respect, commitment and discipline are essential for any loving relationship but a selfless and unconditional love is as true a feeling. Judgement does play an important role but I believe that the selfless act also arises from the very knowledge that you love a person no matter what.

 

I wish I could have continued with these sessions in future and found out more about this intriguing aspect of life but I am having to leave Surat soon, so I guess I have to learn the rest from my own experiences. However, I will definitely treasure the learning and reiterate the same to implement in life.

Last but not the least, a hearty thanks to the facilitators, Priyanka ma’am and Nandini ma’am, who invested their time and energy to plan for such sessions and listened patiently to all our concerns. I enjoyed the discussions a lot!

 

Regards,

Sagarkanya