Love – an attempt to define it
Love is difficult to define as well to practice and all the more to make it a habit…habit of loving someone unconditionally. During the love classes, I had quite interesting realizations and heard many different views about Love. We started of with question whether Life is easy and difficult and I clearly remember where everyone agreed that life is difficult and I was the one who disagreed and said that Life is easy…After lot of deliberation, everyone accepted my viewpoint and since then our group always says that life is easy and not difficult. Point was that if we believe that life is difficult then we will not get aspired to make it easy – we will not fight harder to sort our difficulties and the pain will just increase as we will keep reliving those unpleasant experiences. So its a choice that individual has to make whether to view life as easy or difficult – difficulties will always come but one has to overcome those difficulties. Parallel to this we also discussed about Pain and Suffering – legitimate and Illegitimate pain and the difference between to and how important it is to practice this difference in any relationship that we are into.
Few definitions of Love – Love is like discipline – one needs to practice and display even in an adverse situation and when you disagree..it requires strength and discipline to love someone even when you hate them…We also discussed tools of discipline and personally delaying gratification is something that I didn’t practice much but I now do intend to.
I also found Myths of Love as an intriguing topic – out of Self sacrifice was one of the points which affirmed one of the strongest believe that if you are not happy then how will you keep your loved ones happy. It made easy for me to explain my loved ones always sacrificing is not the right way to love someone and thinking this is how relationship works are incorrect…It made easy for me to explain that being happy doesn’t mean that person is selfish or self- centered..rather it means that person has completely accepted the way he or she is – is aware of what hurts them or makes him / her happy…what are their strengths and areas of improvements…their emotional quotient is high as compared to others because they know how to heal their wounds when somebody hurts them without and at the same time how to put across a point without hurting anyone..they are compassionate and empathetic…and now I can keep extending this discovery to whom so ever I will meet in future…
Love is extending one-self…its a choice…it required efforts…it needs to be done willingly…
Besides this, I also enjoyed Marriage session as my husband accompanied me. I could relate to 7 stages of marriage since I have been married past 2 years only and I discussed with my husband incidents which we faced and how could we have done things better then…Love classes have reinforced my belief that its a journey where one will see ups and down…will face difficulties and pain…have to face confrontations and still stand strong and keeping loving the dear ones conditions…its relationship which requires continuous nurturing.
Keeping loving…