“Love is just like a back pain…once it strikes, it stays forever…”

Well, this is what my husband told me when I asked him how would he define love…and this was just after I finished sharing my learning and experience of love classes…and Scott Peck’s definition of love…

In reality, this was an attempt of my husband to cheer me up as I was missing my family and schools friends whom I don’t get to meet so often post marriage. Scott Peck has rightly said that love is not about falling in love with someone hopelessly or being dependent on someone to fulfill your needs..its also not about sacrificing own happiness and inner peace every time and then expecting that the person would understand your pain without you expressing it… Love is just like any other relationship which needs to be nurtured unconditionally… This is what I said when we were asked to define what is love… One has to go beyond his or her ego boundaries, fear, doubts, weaknesses, failures to really love unconditionally forever… So it also means that love needs to be practiced and demonstrated in the adverse situation; by accepting the person as he or she is and most importantly, by accepting ourselves. It’s not easy and it requires efforts, courage, and willingness to love by maintaining the essence of the relationship; which means there has to enough room in the relationship which allows two people to grow… to grow emotionally and spiritually.

I am blessed to be surrounded by people who have loved me by accepting me as I am and have encouraged me to love them truly, madly, deeply and fiercely. These relationships are my strength and my center of focus due to which I am able to maintain the balance between work and personal life. It is this love which makes me believe that life is easy…