{"id":3359,"date":"2019-11-10T11:23:36","date_gmt":"2019-11-10T11:23:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lifeclasses.fountainheadschools.org\/?p=3359"},"modified":"2019-11-10T20:27:02","modified_gmt":"2019-11-10T20:27:02","slug":"puppet-of-our-thinking","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lifeclasses.fountainheadschools.org\/?p=3359","title":{"rendered":"Puppet of our emotions"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\u201cWhether we like it or not, we are puppets of our emotions. We make complex decisions by consulting our feelings, not our thoughts. Against our best intentions, we substitute the question, \u201cWhat do I think about this?\u201d with \u201cHow do I feel about this?\u201d So, smile! Your future depends on it<\/em>.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2015 Rolf Dobelli, <\/span>The Art of Thinking Clearly<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

This is isn’t a surprise to all, but we fail to be objective while we are making choices, even the most basic ones, what to eat, how to eat, when to eat and how much to eat. Turn around and you could cite various incidences in Diwali vacation where your emotions\u00a0 hijacked thinking skills, forget critical thinking skills and you blame vacation, friends, family for your weight gain or indigestion issues.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

So with me, I would get easily influenced by someone who is knowledgeable, highly qualified, or someone who is well read as an authority. When I tracked my beliefs behind my choices, I realised that my culture and my upbringing was the root cause to condition my behaviour which made me such a dependent person who would always look up to superiors for affirmation and suggestions. I did not learn how to fish, and hence was hungry everyday, the knowledgeable person fished for me and I enjoyed ready made fish. Completely lazy to evaluate information or thoughts, my thought process was on a vacation, as my expert had already done the detailed research, I was only required to follow the path laid\u00a0 by the superior. Bhai! kyo itni hazamat karni? I had the option to cooly put all the responsibility on the shoulder of the expert if the outcome is not favourable. Why to employing critical thinking skills? \u201cTaayar bhojan khaoo\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>So I came to realise this flaw in my approach and my attitude when I took up financial investments as a Goal. There I bumped into another bias and a very common one, gender bias.. all male members of my family, Father, Father in law , husband and brother were financial experts and their decisions related to future planning, investments were well thought and unchallenged.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Bugging colleagues, guest speakers, and snatching every possible opportunity to learn about finance and investments got the best over me. My questions were received with scepticism, at times. The struggle is still on as the ones involved are my close ones and where family and relationship are involved, being puppet of emotions is common.<\/span><\/p>\n

Similarly, I would also take IB workshop leaders as intellectual entity, and what they shared was taken word to word (tathasthu) without giving much thought. For me it was, ” yeh karna, hai and yeh nahi karna hai. Bol diya toh baas bol diyya”.There was no grey area, everything was black and white.\u00a0 Over a period of time, I realised the flaw, It did not happen overnight, not till I took responsibility for my thinking. However it is still WIP. (work in progress)\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cPatience is indeed a virtue.\u201d<\/b><\/em><\/p>\n

\u2015 Rolf Dobelli, <\/b>The Art of Thinking Clearly<\/b><\/a><\/p>\n

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https:\/\/medium.com\/@vsmith.bennett\/are-you-a-puppet-on-your-emotional-strings-d136e579d460 \u201cWhether we like it or not, we are puppets of our emotions. We make complex decisions by consulting our feelings, not our thoughts. Against our best intentions, we substitute the question, \u201cWhat do I think about this?\u201d with \u201cHow do I feel about this?\u201d So, smile! Your future depends on it.\u201d \u2015 Rolf Dobelli, The Art of Thinking Clearly<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":79,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[22],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3359","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-critical-thinking"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lifeclasses.fountainheadschools.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3359","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lifeclasses.fountainheadschools.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lifeclasses.fountainheadschools.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lifeclasses.fountainheadschools.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/79"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lifeclasses.fountainheadschools.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=3359"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/lifeclasses.fountainheadschools.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3359\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3366,"href":"https:\/\/lifeclasses.fountainheadschools.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3359\/revisions\/3366"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lifeclasses.fountainheadschools.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=3359"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lifeclasses.fountainheadschools.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=3359"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lifeclasses.fountainheadschools.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=3359"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}